Anti-Valentine

For many years, when I was younger and naive, I hoped Valentines Day would be a glorious day of romantic gestures by my significant other at the time, my 1st hubby. After a while, and as the marriage deteriorated, it declined into a meaningless card left on a surface. Eventually, even that stopped.

Now, being a woman that enjoys outward shows of love and affection and one that needs to see she is loved as well as know it, you would think I would like to restart, with my 2nd hubby, this tradition of romantic gestures, right?

Wrong!

Firstly, it's a Christian celebration day for a saint, based on the Roman Tradition of Lupercalia and I belong to neither tradition.

Secondly, I find that St. Valentines Day is a great day for the chocolate, gift card, flower companies and restaurants, but really what's the point? It's a heartless reminder of loneliness to those that are without a partner, whether intentionally or not, but if you are a part of a couple, which of the following would you prefer?

A partner, who may feel forced (by peer pressure) to spend their well earned money once a year on chocolate and meals that just get digested, on cards that lurk for a while in draws and in some cases eventually get thrown away or on flowers that just wither and die...

OR...

Would you prefer that you partner spreads their love and romance throughout each and every day of the year, making you feel loved, wanted and desired every day of your life?

Maybe I'm a cynic, but I choose everyday over one guilt ridden outburst...because I deserve more.

Which do you prefer?